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Contact
So hi! You want to contact me? That's cool. I'm at rebeccabeme at yahoo dot com (I type it out that way here so that spam
robots don't find my address and annoy my inbox). I love getting email, but there are certain kinds that I really dislike.
Having said that, we now get to a bit of a touchy subject. So touchy in fact that I think that Little Rebecca needs to
put on her Bitchy Hat.
Rebecca Gets Stabby
Okay. Look. I'm a woman. (Fine, so that's debatable in some circles and not a question at all in some others, the more
enlightened ones, anyway.) Women get attention. Women get hit on. And we pick and choose who we like and who we respond
favorably to, or unfavorably if need be. Men go for just about anything that will get them off (trust me, I know), but women
decide the boundaries. Like it or not, that's how it works, and if you don't understand that, then you might want to take
a look at yourself and ask why you're not getting the responses you want (which are likely something like, "Yes, I'm
here for you!!! I have no standards!!! Take me now!!! All women are like the brain-dead lingerie ad bimbos and porn stars!!!").
I can be nice. Very nice. I can be a lot of fun, too. And I'm not male-bashing here. There are lots of nice men out
there. And those men know how to respect women, not just assume that just because they exist, they're there for the taking.
Look at me, look at my pictures. Enjoy them all you want. But that doesn't mean that the internet is a dating service or
that being a woman equals being a toy. A woman is a person, and sometimes that's all we want to be treated like, not just
as a potential lay. Sure, if you're decent enough, it might come to that. But a lot of my experience so far, both in email
and in person, has shown that a lot of men expect sex to come to them with little to no effort on their part. It doesn't
work that way.
I'm not trying to be such a raving bitch here that I scare anyone and everyone off from trying to talk to me. Believe
me, that's not what I want. I want to talk to people and all of that, but here are some things you should consider before
bothering to email me, things that will make me completely ignore you and hit my delete key:
- Emails that consist of only one or two sentences. Things like, "Your beautiful! I want ur phone number! When
can we meet?" Would you say that to a woman in person? Oh, wait, you would? What was the result?
- No concept of the English language (see the above example). Yes, I'm a snob about this. But if you can't write at
least a paragraph or two, I'm not interested. Email is text. Words. Writing. Say some things that actually mean something
and make sense, something that would make me want to write back. Tell me about yourself.
- Stats and nothing else. "Hi, I'm Jack-Off, I'm 6 foot 13 and weigh however many pounds, have whatever color eyes
and doodoo brown hair." Good for you. Do you think I'll also be interested in your high school SAT scores and your
blood type? Your batting average? That's not making conversation, babe. That's spouting crap that I care nothing about.
- Being pushy. For one, I've said over and over on this site and elsewhere that I live an extremely busy life. I also
get a lot of emails. I can't respond to every single one. Some I ignore, and some I save so I can respond to them when I
have time. And even then, sometimes things are just so hectic that too much time passes, and it's better that I delete those
too rather than respond weeks after the fact. But if you send me a "HEy how r u!" email one day and then another
"Hey U R hot I hope I didn't scare you off LOL!!11" two days later, that's not going to make me want to talk to
you.
- You're married. Okay, let me clarify that. If you're married and just happen to want to talk about something or other,
then okay. But if you're married and are looking to cheat on your wife in either a virtual or real sense, then fuck the hell
off and stop being such a miserable waste of air. There are still some people in this world who respect fidelity. Have you
got kids, too? Dick-head.
Up to this point, I've mainly been talking to the men. For all of you other trans-girls like me out there who would like
to contact me, the above rules apply, too. I have a few more for you girls too, though, most of them not nearly as harsh:
- Asking for advice on how to dress up, apply make-up, etc.: Sorry. I can't really help you there. I learned how to
look how I look through years of practice (and observing the girls around me), both with good results and bad. Look at any
pictures of a young teenage girl, and you'll see examples of bad practices. Ditto for any woman who just doesn't get that
certain make-up and techniques don't work for certain features. But I'm not an advice columnist or a makeover consultant.
Sorry. My only advice is to maybe buy some women's magazines (as I did when I was 20 or so) and see what they say. Fashion
is fickle and changes year to year; keep that in mind, too.
- Asking about places to go like trans clubs and such, either in my location or yours. I'm not nearly as much of a party
person as I wish I was. Just too busy, as I keep saying. Any advice on how to conduct oneself in that setting is also not
my area of expertise, though you might learn some things here and there on my site if I mention my own experiences. I'm definitely
not a source of info, though.
All of that said, there are times when I respond to emails but then get too busy with life to keep up the correspondence.
It happens. Don't take it too personally. This is the internet. People find each other and lose track of each other.
Sometimes I don't respond to emails at all for one reason or another, and it may be for one of the above reasons or it may
not. The key is to not get so caught up in all of this. If your life depends on the status of your inbox, then you've got
more problems than I can help you with.
So let's start over.
Hi. I'm Rebecca. Nice to meet you. And you are...?
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